子曰:君君、臣臣、父父、子子。这话说起来就非常简单易懂。虽然也饱受争议，但认真一想，里面却包含着家庭教育中的许多哲理。因此，经过我们家的三次议会，最终这话成了我家的礼训。

在家里

我家中最讲究“礼”，人人都有权利反驳任何一个人，只要谁说得对，就听谁的。

记得又一次:那是一个很冷的冬天，谁也不敢在街上逗留，我与弟弟片在家里看电视，之后就引发了一场争频道风波。

“干嘛!怎么不看动画片!”弟弟烦恼地说。“不好看呗，还不如看体育比赛，这才更有刺激，激情。”我抢了遥控器并调了节目，理直气壮的喊道。

“不，看动画片。”弟弟撒娇地说。我也假装撒娇地说:“不，我要看体育。”“好，你瞧!”话音刚落，弟弟便“张牙舞爪”地向我扑来，我也不甘示弱与他拼博，于是就是你一拳我一脚，“乒乓——乒乓” 地打起来。“干什么?”爸爸从房子里出来。

“没什么。”我和弟弟异口同声地说，见爸爸不发出声音，又开始争夺电视的权力。最后，由于手身强力壮的我胜了，当我正在乐呵呵地看体育时，爸爸突然悄悄地迈过来，见客厅乱糟糟的，便说:“这就是你们的杰作，究竟干什么，老毛病，你俩又犯了。”

“呼”的一声，窗户漏了点风，垂在我的脸上直痛，脸上刚被弟弟转了一下，风在吹了一下，正如伤上加盐，使我心如千万剑穿梭。

爸爸见此，便晓得了七分，“我不是跟你们讲过‘君君、臣臣、父父、子子’吗?家中只有一台电视，你不让我，我不让你，最终都看不成。奇灿，你做为大哥，应该有大哥样，应该让小的。”爸爸语重心长地说。

“可……我……”我似乎有苦说不出，那天，我一个人呆在房里想着这个事，“的确，是我错，不应该与弟弟争电视，孔融能让梨，而我就不能让电视吗?”

事后，我俩兄弟都被爸爸罚站门口，寒风刺骨，我和弟弟都知道错，在饥寒交迫上交谈了一个下午，虽然已被风吹得皮绽，但我们已和睦相处，不在争什么电视了。

这就是我们家的“礼”，我的理解是一种规矩，使我们兄弟和睦，而且也让我们学会如何更好的相处。这一点是我大彻大悟，这种“礼”不仅在家里使用，在学校同样适用。

在学校

“做学生要有学生的样。”这是爸爸经常劝诫我的话。

我家里甚少用家法处罚，更多的是以自己或朋友的事例告诫我们。

那一次，我在学校一边趴在桌子上，一边写着练习册，不知道爸爸什么时候进来的，见我如此的坐势，爸爸便不顾一切地跑到我面前，而且不顾我的面子，当作全班同学对我训说:“在家里我不是常说‘君君、臣臣、父父、子子’吗? 你现在做学生，要有学生的样，坐有坐相， 学习时要专心致志，否则后悔也来不及。”

当时， 我羞愧极了!爸爸不管我的面子，然后又说了他朋友的一则故事 :讲他朋友年轻时，由于家庭贫困，父母在外打工，便把他与他弟弟放在叔叔家中。当时他叔叔是河南高级工程师，随时能把他们兄弟培养成才。那时他是一名中学生，习惯不好，做学生没有学生样，整天在课堂上与同学讲话，特别在吃饭时一边嚼着饭菜，一边看电视，有时还把饭喂到鼻子里。他叔叔见到便劝告他，可他屡次不改，他叔叔没法子，就这样这些坏习惯就伴随着他。而他弟弟习惯好听叔叔的教导。 长大以后，他弟弟已成了百万富翁，而他却在做建筑工人。

爸爸劝告响彻了教室，虽然当时很不好意思，但是我从害羞中领悟出了道理。

这就是我家的“礼”，毫无保留面子，却重在训诫，警示着正在误入歧途中的我。

而现在

回想往事，我觉得父亲当时的做法是正确的。“君君、臣臣、父父、子子”，虽然我们现在不是封建的社会，没有那么多的三纲五常，但是“父父、子子”的关系依然存在。“子不教，父子过”，而作为儿子也应遵循规矩，做好自己的本分，这是不变的礼节。这一点我永远铭记在脑海中，提醒自己。而且此话如镜，时时照照自己，若有不好的行为，便会及时改正，因为:“知错能改，善莫大焉。”

家家都有自己的方法治理家，我们就是以“礼”中的一句作为家训，从而是我家变得更健康，更完美。

“君君、臣臣、父父、子子”我会取其精华教育自己，正如《论语》所说的:“博我以文，约我以礼……”。

英语翻译：

The son said: the emperor, the minister, the father and the son. This is very simple and easy to understand. Although it is also controversial, if you think about it seriously, it contains many philosophies in family education. Therefore, after three parliaments in our family, these words finally became our ritual precepts.

at home

"Etiquette" is the most important thing in my family. Everyone has the right to refute anyone. As long as he is right, he will listen to him.

I remember once again: It was a very cold winter, and no one dared to stay on the street. My brother and I were watching TV at home, which caused a dispute over channels.

"Why! Why don't you watch cartoons!" the younger brother said annoyedly. "It's not good to watch. It's better to watch a sports game. This is more exciting and passionate." I grabbed the remote control and adjusted the program, and shouted confidently.

"No, watching cartoons." The younger brother said coquettishly. I also pretended to say coquettishly: "No, I want to watch sports." "Okay, look!" As soon as the voice fell, my brother pounced at me "with his teeth and claws", and I was not to be outdone to fight with him, so it was you One punch and one kick, "Ping Pong-Ping Pong". "What are you doing?" Dad came out of the house.

"It's nothing." My brother and I said in unison. Seeing that my father didn't make a sound, we started fighting for the power of the TV again. In the end, because of my strong hands and body, I won. When I was watching sports happily, my father suddenly walked over quietly and saw the mess in the living room. He said: "This is your masterpiece. What are you doing? You two committed another crime."

With a "huh", a little wind leaked from the window, and it hurt my face. My face was just turned by my brother, and the wind blew, just like adding salt to the wound, making my heart like a sword. .

When Dad saw this, he knew seven points, "Didn’t I tell you about'junjun, ministers, father, son,"? There is only one TV at home. You don’t let me and I don’t let you. Can't see it. Qican, as a big brother, you should be like a big brother, and you should be small." Dad said earnestly.

"But...I..." I seemed to be in trouble. That day, I stayed alone in the room thinking about it. "Indeed, I was wrong. I shouldn't fight with my brother for TV. Kong Rong can let Li. And can’t I let the TV?"

After the incident, our brothers were all punished by my father to stand at the door. The cold wind was bitter. Both my brother and I knew what was wrong. We talked for an afternoon when we were hungry and cold. Although we had been battered by the wind, we were living in harmony and we were not arguing about anything. TV out.

This is the "rite" of our family. My understanding is a rule that makes our brothers reconcile, and it also allows us to learn how to get along better. This is what I fully realized. This kind of "ritual" is not only used at home, but also applicable in school.

in school

"Being a student must be like a student." This is what Dad often admonishes me.

My family seldom uses family law to punish us, and more often tells us about ourselves or friends.

At that time, I was lying on the table while writing the exercise book at school. I didn’t know when my father came in. Seeing me sitting like this, my fath